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Today I have been meditating about effective communication. I have been wondering if the art of effective communication has become, well, extinct.

A year ago, I switched my cell phone carrier to Verizon so that I could have mobile to mobile communication with my children. At first it worked because they would call me. My communication with my 18 year old daughter has become fewer and fewer. She commented to me once, "well don't you text?"

Even communicating with my friends about events, I couldn't do without my cell phone and am increasingly feeling the great need to get unlimited texting for my cell phone.

I must admit, I do not like to 'chat' on the phone. I avoid it. I wasn't always like this, perhaps it is because I talk so much on the phone with my job. Nevertheless, that is where texting comes into play. It's easier, quicker, sort of being on Facebook or using email. I like it, I like it alot and obviously so do many other people.

It does leave me concerned however, that with our modern fast paced electronic pc friendly society, have we lost the art of effective communication and do we really care if we did?

Society as a whole are communicating and connecting more through modern devices, but are we TRULY communicating or can we learn something from the ancestors of the American Indian and the culture of their effective ways of communication.

You be the judge and let me know what you think. Here is the history of the TALKING STICK, it's richness and it's symbolic meaning.


The talking stick has been used for centuries by many American Indian tribes as a means of just and impartial hearing. The talking stick was commonly used in council circles to designate who had the right to speak. When matters of great concern came before the council, the leading elder would hold the talking stick and begin the discussion. When he finished what he had to say he would hold out the talking stick, and whoever wished to speak after him would take it. In this manner the stick was passed from one individual to another until all who wished to speak had done so. The stick was then passed back to the leading elder for safe keeping.

Some tribes used a talking feather instead of a talking stick. Other tribes might have a peace pipe, a wampum belt, a sacred shell, or some other object by which they designate the right to speak. Whatever the object, it carries respect for free speech and assures the speaker he has the freedom and power to say what is in his heart without fear of reprisal or humiliation.

Whoever holds the talking stick has within his hands the sacred power of words. Only he can speak while he holds the stick; the other council members must remain silent. The eagle feather tied to the talking stick gives him the courage and wisdom to speak truthfully and wisely. The rabbit fur on the end of the stick reminds him that his words must come from his heart and that they must be soft and warm. The blue stone will remind him that the Great Spirit hears the message of his heart as well as the words he speaks. The shell, iridescent and ever changing, reminds him that all creation changes -- the days, the seasons, the years -- and people and situations change, too. The four colors of beads -- yellow for the sunrise (east), red for the sunset (west), white for the snow (north) and green for the earth (south) -- are symbolic of the powers of the universe he has in his hands at the moment to speak what is in his heart. Attached to the stick are strands of hair from the great buffalo. He who speaks may do so with the power and strength of this great animal.

The speaker should not forget that he carries within himself a sacred spark of the Great Spirit, and therefore he is also sacred. If he feels he cannot honor the talking stick with his words, he should refrain from speaking so he will not dishonor himself. When he is again in control of his words, the stick will be returned to him.


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